Alone in Kyoto.
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I was talking to a close friend of mine who lives in Japan about loneliness, and how we both experience it but in subtle and different ways. When talking about writing with them, and how that helps me cope with loneliness, they said maybe they would give it a try. My friend, who wanted to remain anonymous, asked if I could post their work here to which I said of course. Below are a few words about loneliness and living in Japan.
Living alone in Kyoto, Japan, has been both a unique experience and a journey through solitude. The tranquil beauty of this ancient city contrasts with the subtle ache of loneliness that sometimes settles within me. Surrounded by vibrant cherry blossoms in spring and vibrant red maple leaves in fall, I find solace in the breathtaking landscapes, yet there are moments when the emptiness of my small apartment mirrors the void in my heart.
Navigating daily life in a foreign land has its challenges, and loneliness often becomes my uninvited companion. The language barrier stands as a reminder of my outsider status, a barrier that separates me from forging deeper connections with the locals. Despite my efforts to learn the language, genuine conversations remain elusive, leaving me yearning for a connection that transcends simple pleasantries.
The customs and traditions of Japan are both fascinating and sometimes bewildering to me. Participating in local festivals and observing rituals like tea ceremonies has given me a glimpse into the rich cultural tapestry of this nation. However, being an outsider looking in can magnify my sense of isolation. As I witness families and friends coming together to celebrate, I can't help but feel a pang of emptiness, a reminder of the bonds I lack.
Music, in its universal language, has become my refuge in times of loneliness. Walking through the historic streets of Gion while listening to traditional Japanese melodies, I find a connection that goes beyond words. The melodies evoke emotions that resonate deeply within me, bridging the gap between my foreign identity and the cultural heritage of Japan. Music becomes my companion during quiet evenings, echoing the sentiments I struggle to express.
But amidst the solitude, Kyoto offers moments of clarity and introspection. The serene temples and shrines that dot the city provide a sanctuary for self-discovery. The introspective solitude these places offer allows me to reflect on my journey, to embrace the loneliness as an essential part of my growth. It's in these moments that I find strength in being alone, realizing that it's an opportunity to reconnect with myself and build resilience.
In my quest to navigate the waters of loneliness, I've also discovered the beauty of connecting with fellow expatriates who share similar experiences. Together, we've formed a community that understands the challenges of living in a foreign land, offering each other support and companionship. Through shared meals, laughter, and conversations, I've found a sense of belonging that helps alleviate the loneliness that once felt all-encompassing.
Living alone in Kyoto has been a bittersweet journey, a delicate balance between solitude and connection. While loneliness remains a part of my narrative, it has also become a catalyst for personal growth, prompting me to explore my inner self and forge connections with both the culture and people around me. As I continue to wander these ancient streets, I am reminded that embracing solitude is a step towards discovering the depths of my own resilience and the profound beauty of Japan's rich tapestry.
My friend also wanted to share a playlist that they enjoy of Japanese music.
If anyone else would like to write something regarding loneliness and share it here, I’d be more than happy to do so. Please drop me an email and we can work something out.
Hi, thank you so much for reading. Sorry it may not be up to my usual standards, having to work on my phone to write as my laptop is dead!! Fancy buying me a coffee? That would be so awesome if you could and would help my work towards a new laptop.
Alone in Kyoto.
This is beautiful. I love what your friend said about music. It reminded me of something Davey Havok said, “Don't let anyone, even your parents, break you. Find good people who care about you and surround yourself with just them. If you can't find them at first, find good music and fall into it, let it hold you until they come.” 💗
Hopefully with continued study and practice, at some point your friend's language skills will click - it would be lovely to see how their experience changes, if the culture bursts open to them, when they are able to communicate.